His Ex

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His Ex
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Wed, 10-20-2004 - 3:03pm

Do you think that it's ok for your live-in boyfriend to still talk to his ex from 6 years ago whenever he sees her online even though he tells me she's a complete bitch?

What about if he still carries two of her pictures in his wallet but none of me?

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In reply to: aaliasalaam
Wed, 10-20-2004 - 3:13pm

Nope, don't think so. Could be still pining over her. Since he says that she's a bitch and I'm guessing they don't have kids together, then there should be no reason to talk to her.

And the whole picture thing, it speaks volumes!

Are you willing to really listen??

Alison

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In reply to: aaliasalaam
Wed, 10-20-2004 - 3:26pm

My heart said that but my brain was saying I'm just being selfish about it. This was the first time that I know of he's talked to her in a few months because he says she's been offline. She was on the day before, he mentioned it and kept looking over at the screen while I was sitting there talking to him.He doesn't know that I've seen the pictures in his wallet. I don't know how I can confront him about it. Maybe I should just tell him I accidently knocked it on the floor and it fell open. Do you think it's just still in there because he hasn't cleaned out his wallet in a few years? He still has his highschool ID in there from 4 years ago.

How should I even bring this up with him?
Edited 10/20/2004 3:31 pm ET ET by aaliasalaam




Edited 10/20/2004 3:32 pm ET ET by aaliasalaam
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In reply to: aaliasalaam
Wed, 10-20-2004 - 3:51pm

Well, you could bring it up, or you can keep quiet, that's up to you. If you do bring it up, just talk about it casually without sounding like you're accusing him of hiding something.

As for the pictures, you could get some wallet size photos of yourself and give them to him. There are those photo booths in the malls that you can take him to to get some done of the two of you for fun.

Good luck

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Registered: 10-21-2003
In reply to: aaliasalaam
Tue, 10-26-2004 - 10:06pm
I think he's definitely hiding something. If he really thinks she's a bitch, he wouldn't talk to her. He either calls her a bitch to make you feel better about his past relationship, or he's still into her and is trying to pull the wool over your eyes. The picture thing is absolutely unacceptable ... and I speak from experience. Give him a picture of you for his wallet or slip one in yourself, but make sure you tell him that her pictures need to be out of his wallet NOW. He's being disrespectful to you, and you need to talk to him about why he's afraid to have your picture with him and why he's hiding his friendship with the ex from you.