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his ex is his best friend
| Mon, 11-15-2004 - 11:39pm |
My boyfiend's ex from several years ago is now his best friend. The problem is that he has had sex with her since they have become "just friends", he has a very strong emotional bond with her, and she is still in love with him and hoping that one day things will work out for them again.
He thinks that this is OK because he values the friendship. I think it is damaging to our relationship because of her intentions and his strong feelings for her. He acknowledges her intentions, but says I need to trust him.
What do you think?

You say they have had sex as friends and are emotionally involved. Was all this while you two were dating? If he had sex with her while you were in a relationship with him then he has disrespected you and has cheated on you with her. He's telling you they are just friends so he can keep you both on a string. He has the best of both worlds. I don't think he would like it if you had a male "friend" that you had sex with while you were dating him. If you stay with this guy you are in for a world of hurt. He is not going to stop seeing her for you. That is obvious. You know what you need to do.
I think you not should let this go beacause this obviesly bothers you, and I think you dont have to deal with this because of her intensions. You do not want to end up like the fool who trusted your boyfriend, and end up beeing ditched for his ex. Confront him!
Best of luck