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His ex's picture
| Mon, 07-17-2006 - 11:34am |
I've been seeing a guy steadily for about 2 months now. Things are really great between us, we get along great, we have fun together and we see a future together. He is divorced and has been for 10 years. His wife left him for another man and then several years later she committed suicide. My problem is he has a picture of her on his dresser. It's not framed or anything, it's just in a photo packet laying on his dresser. Several weeks ago, when I first saw it, I asked him about it and he told me it was her. That bothered me a little and he explained it by saying after the divorce they had become friends and to him it's like having a picture of a friend who had passed away. After that about a week later I was at his house again and he went in and put the picture away in a drawer when he thought I was in the other room. When I asked him about it he said that he has the picture out but was putting it away because he knew it bothered me. I told him that i didn't want him to put the picture away for me, I wanted him to put it up because he didn't need it anymore. The thing is the picture is still out and I can't help but be bothered by it. It also makes me wonder if he will ever be able to love me more than he loved her. I don't want to have second place in his heart.

hmm, well I could understand you being upset if he had pic of someone who was still around and he kept in touch with...but the woman is deceased. He was married to her, she probably will always have a spot in his heart. I feel bad for him, i cant imagine how hard that is...i was practically married to someone once, and while he's still alive, i'd probably be quite shooken up if he died...and he didnt exactly treat me well in the end. I dont have pictures of him out, but I do still have pictures of him after 3 years.
You have only been with this man for 2 months...I think it's a little soon to expect him to not have the picture out. If you two were married and he had the picture out I'd think it was inappropriate. I would just give him some time. Plus you must have heard his story before you started going steady.