his last girlfriend???

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Registered: 04-22-2007
his last girlfriend???
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Sun, 04-22-2007 - 9:44pm
my last two bf's, both lasted over a year each, have now or are about to marry the girlfriends after me???? what the heck! i dont understand bc i always thought things were good between us that just maybe it was my turn.. .. .. oh both of them were engaged with in 6 months of ending our relationships and i am jsut utterly confused bc i am questioning myself and very rarely do i question myself i am feeling as though i am not good enough and i jsut really dont wanna go back into the dating feild again or EVER for that matter
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 04-22-2007 - 10:19pm

Korench...

PG noticed you mentioned 2 previous b/f's who turned you down in favor of other women! Were these the only 2....or were there others before them?

The reason I'm asking is that if you've been dumped more than 4 times...there HAS to be something about your personality, hygiene or beliefs that are stopping your previous b/f's from taking anything further?

There's no ivillage profile on you...so I honestly can't comment any further?

Pianoguy

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Registered: 04-22-2007
Sun, 04-22-2007 - 10:43pm
2 out of 3 and i dont think there is anyhting wrong with me lol i mean if there was i would know right?? ?? ??
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Sun, 04-22-2007 - 11:23pm
It is just the way things turned out. If you are convinced there is more to this, and if you did not get any feedback from the guys as to why they broke up with you, you could maybe ask a friend for some honest feedback. Maybe saw something in your interactions with your boyfriends.
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Registered: 02-27-2007
Mon, 04-23-2007 - 5:10pm

OK, I am not sure why people automatically assume that someone is wrong with you. Whether you were the dumper or the dumpee, I think relationships all boil down to timing. Do you recall that Sex and the City episode where they liken men to a cab? In the episode, they say that guys sort of just drive around with their light off for awhile, till one day they decide to turn the light on. So the next girl they pick up is "the one."

If I were you, I'd take some time to pick up a new hobby or learn something new. After the break up of a long term relationship last year, I started taking cooking classes, learning Spanish and began the practice of yoga. I love it! And another thing, wouldn't you prefer to find out now that those guys aren't the one for you rather than 10 years and 2.3 kids down the road?

Timing is everything. Be patient for yours.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Mon, 04-23-2007 - 5:27pm

Wow.

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