holding hands, kissing?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
holding hands, kissing?
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Sat, 12-24-2005 - 5:57pm

I've been on 3 dates, first date was drinks, 2nd was lunch and 3rd was movies and he still hasn't even touched me yet! He definitely likes me and he's not gay. He's very masculine and I wouldn't say shy or anything. People have been telling me that he's being a gentleman... but hey i would really like a cuddle! My ex called me a physical girl (not meaning sex, but i like hugs cuddles and kisses). I am usually relaxed and open and during the movie we laughed and chatted so like he had all these opportunities!! And when we were walking I felt like screaming "just put an arm around me you silly!!" He also gave me some chocolates for Christmas and I put my arm around his neck and hug him but we only kissed on the cheeks (cheek to cheek).

Man what's happening? Is this good or bad?

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Registered: 11-28-2005
Sun, 12-25-2005 - 1:05pm

You could ask, or you could initiate.

But you should probably at least consider the possibility that he's less physically demonstrative in public than you are and that is something that would not change.

If you put alot of emphasis on being "pawed at" in public as it being an indicator that you're so cute and cuddly and desired.....being with someone that considers that type of behavior disrespectful to your character, or inappropriate in public is really going to get you "upset" quite a bit.

Talk to him regarding his thoughts about public gestures and displays of affection. You might do it while initiating holding his hand.....and seeing what he does nad discussing it.

Erin
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Registered: 04-07-2003
Sun, 12-25-2005 - 1:10pm
If you want to hold his hand, why not take his hand in yours and hold it. Or if you want to kiss him, why not make the first move? Perhaps he's nervous, or shy, or who knows what. My advice is either you make the first move or talk to him about it first. Good luck.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sun, 12-25-2005 - 4:16pm
Thanks for your posts. Somehow I don't want to initiate anything... I have in the past but this time I just want the guy to initiate! Wouldn't talking to him about it be just bizzare????? What would I say? Do you mind if I hold your hand???