hooking up and what does it mean?
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hooking up and what does it mean?
| Tue, 12-26-2006 - 11:52pm |
So my friend of 7 years announced to me the other day that he wanted to hook up with me. I am 21 years old and a virgin who has had feelings for him since the day I met him.... What is hooking up and is it different when its a friend rather then a complete stranger??? I mean we get along great I just can't take it to the next level because I am scared of what it will do to our friendship.. and i definatly don't want to lose that....
Any Advice????
Any Advice????

Hooking up is still sex without love or a commitment, whether it's a friend or not, and IMO that is NOT how you want your first time to be!!!
And yes, it WILL change your friendship. Most women have a really hard time separating sex from feelings, and it's even harder when it's your first time. I would urge you not to do this.
Sheri
What does it mean?? It means he wants to have sex with you. What did you think it meant?
Did you tell him you're a virgin? He may have never "done" a virgin before and wants to see what it's like. If that's the case, be careful. What will you expect out of this if it happens? Don't expect a relationship if that's not what he's looking for. After you figure out what you want from this, I would talk to him and make sure you both are on the same page if you go through with this with him.
My first time was a hookup. We didnt love each other and had been dating only a short time. Point is, I decided that for myself. For me there is too much stress put around it losing of virginity and I just wanted to get it over with. We dated for a year and a half. Do I regret any of it....NO!!!!! But you have to make your decision, it can change friendships, I have lost some after things went sexual and I still mainstain some that have been sexual and are no longer, its a risk and you need to sit and talk to him and evaluate what is most important to each of you before decisions are made.
Morrigan
Sweetie, hooking up means that you both agree to have sex once in a while or on a steady basis, BUT that there are NO strings attached. He and you will meet, have sex, chat, laugh and enjoy the moment and then you both will go home. There won't be any committment from you or him to call the next day OR to date seriously. You both can date other people and meet to hook up at your own convenience. It doesn't matter if the guy is a friend or if he's a stranger. The hooking up practice is the same in all cases. Hooking up is much like a FWB deal or having a bed buddie.
I'd suggest not to do this because you're already emotionally invested. You like the guy and even have feelings for him. In this type of deal there are no strings attached, which means that you both enjoy the moment and nothing more. There is no future for the both of you as an "us" or "together".