the hot/cold/say what game

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Registered: 04-06-2003
the hot/cold/say what game
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Wed, 02-15-2006 - 1:31pm

I'm in my thirties and a recent guy in one of my dance classes confuses me. I finally talked with a competative swimmer turned ballet dancer who has taled me in class looking me straight in the eye smiling a couple times, taled my rideshares car once, leapt over bodies to sit next to me. This is the second time I attempted to talk with him and he finally blurted, "I am NOT interested in talking with you outside of class. GOT IT!!!! I dont know what behavior your talking about all these lies and stories."

I was hurt. The thing is, quite a few males and females landed in my crotch while dancing and I never got strong vibes ...and he seems young, rough but sweet so I'd be willing to entertain it.

I started with, "I'll tell you a dream I had of you, let's have a coffee and you should close your eyes and I'll talk..." Perhaps my voice sounded unsure, I was trying to be romantic but I got, "You're trying to be manipulative and controlling!!! Just tell me the dream! And it only has to deal with your psyche...nothing metaphysical or such stuff.." What!?! He did talk about how I had a pure heart later, but blew up when I ended with 'that' class behavior needs to be toned down so I dont get the wrong message.

I must be getting something wrong with guys. He turned me down after I thought I got vibes. Okay I got it wrong, it was class ONLY. But I'm getting these waaay out of line comebacks. To be compassionate I would say, he's frightened of dealing with me emotionally and is coming off like a three year old who wants my attention but will kick me in the shin out of fear.

I'm trying not to feel heart broken but I've been divorced a few years and have a few girlfriends but have been gunshy with guys...for that reason. The few I've dated were gamy.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 4:19pm

Ok, this guy sounds both creepy and like a jerk, why would you want to be with him? He has followed you around and harrassed you but when you express interest in him, he freaks out yelling at you and embarassing you in front of others?!? What's to like about that? He sounds cruel and a bit unstable.

If I were you, I'd stay far away from this guy and find someone that doesn't put you down and act this way.

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Registered: 11-24-2004
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 5:02pm
This guy sounds like a Jekyll and Hyde. First, he follows you and makes sure he sits next to you. And when you express interest, he out and out rejects you? WTH? I haven't had an experience like this since junior high. Be glad you're not getting caught up with this imbecile.

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