How am I supposed to handle this?
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| Mon, 12-12-2005 - 12:29pm |
Okay, I need yall to tell me how you would do it.
I have been dating this guy for three months. We were a couple and everything was great. We were even using the "L" word. But after a while everything he did began to annoy me. So a week and a half ago I broke up with him. Then last weekend he wanted to talk to me and we decided that we should slow down and just date for a while longer. Nothing like "boyfriend/girlfriend" just date and stuff. He asked me if I was getting him anything for Xmas and I said yes. Then the bottom fell out on my finances and I thought to myself, I have no money to buy anyone anything. But when I talked to him yesterday, he said he has already gotten me something, and that it was really nice and I wouldn't want to take it back :eek: !
So here is the dilema. I can't date him anymore. I don't feel the same way about him that I used to and I want to move on in my life and I want him to be able to move on to.
How do I tell him this and should I wait until after Xmas (keep in mind, if I wait until after Xmas I have to buy him something).

Now is a very good time to dump him, well before Christmas so he can give your gift to his sister or return it.
If you wait his entire family will want to hear all about you since he probably will be seeing them over the holidays.
<< I don't feel the same way about him that I used to and I want to move on in my life and I want him to be able to move on to.>>
Just be honest with him, and do it sooner than later. If you already know what you need to do, it would be irresponsible to wait until after Christmas, just because he's already bought you a gift. Do it now, and he can return it, get his money back, exchange it, whatever. Wait, and you'll be leading him to believe that you WANT to be in this with him, when in fact, you don't.
The gift is just a detail. The bigger picture is that you want to move on. So, you should do that so that he can too.
Thanks everyone for your input. I ended it yesterday with him and told him that my decision was not up for dicussion. He's the kind that always wants to talk you out of your decision or try to make you feel bad for doing something. Anyway, now he is open to move on with his life and I am open to do the same.
Thanks y'all!