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how to ask a friend out
| Tue, 07-13-2004 - 3:46pm |
I met "T" when I started working at my job 5 yrs ago. We just said Hi in the passing. Then I started talking to a girl who worked there as well, "C" we became really good friends and she just happend to be friends with "T". So we started seeing each other more like at staff parties, never one on one. He was going out with someone as was I at the time. He broke up with his girlfriend about one year ago, about 6 months after I broke up with my boyfriend. About 4 months ago we started getting closer, better friends I mean. We exchanged numbers and talk on the phone once in a while. Me and our 3 friends all go out to Boston Pizza usually once a week for drinks and nice conversation. A couple months ago I realized that I had feelings for him and held it in, I didn't tell anyone. Up until a month ago when I told "C" of the situation. She thinks it's cute but she doesn't think that he's ready for a relashionship just yet that he's loving the single life. Two weeks ago I started working at that job again after talking a year off, so now I see him every weekend. I don't know what to do, I'm so confused. I have been in this situation before, I told a friend that I had feelings for him (he was a best friend) he didn't feel the same way, but I thought he would have been mature enough to look past it and we could remain friends. But I haven't seen or heard from him in over a year and a half. Needless to say it was very painful. I just don't want that to happen again, especially since we have mutual friends. He is just the guy I'm looking for: Caring, sweet, funny (he can make me laugh on a dime) and he's someone you can count on no matter what. We flirt but in a joking way, he also flirts with "C". It's just what we do. We make funny remarks to each other like he wants to give me gas money for picking him up before going out and I just tell him "You can pay me back in sexual favors". Everyone at the table laughs. So, how do you flirt with someone you already joke around with? How do I let him know how I feel without freaking him out? How do I keep things the same after he knows? Please give me advice, I don't know what to do!! Thanks, J
