How to ask if he wants more...

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Registered: 05-03-2004
How to ask if he wants more...
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Thu, 08-12-2004 - 6:08pm
I recently met a guy in a chatroom and we really hit it off...so much so that he called me and we talked for almost two hours! We met later on, and we ended up fooling around. I don't regret what I did, but we have talked a lot since, and I really think I could like him and am hoping for something more...is it too late for that?

At this point I don't really know if he is interested in me romantically or just sexually. I want him to know I am interested in dating him, but I don't want him to feel like he has to say yes if that isn't how he really feels...is there a no-pressure way to do this?


Edited 8/13/2004 3:42 pm ET ET by squeevil

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 7:42pm
So in other words: how do you back peddle the physical relationship and start a real relationship with him? Since you've fooled around with him upon meeting and the topic of conversation always returns to sex, I'm going to say that that would be what he's looking for. If you wanted more than that, you should have said so to begin with.

You can ask him to do something *datey* (as you put it) with you. But don't be surprised if A)he declines or B) the *date* turns into the bed.

If you want to know what his intentions are, ask him straight out. Be honest with how you feel. If you don't want just a bed buddy, tell him so. If he bolts, you can move on and find someone new to connect with. If he doesn't, then take things slow and take the time to get to know him.

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Registered: 08-10-2003
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 9:24pm
Dear, it appears that this man is looking for a bed buddie and he thinks he's found one in you. If you want more than sex say so directly. Stop the sex and sex talk and then put your cards on the table. In a few days you'll see answer. If he wants more than a bed buddie he'll respect your wishes and if not he'll stop chatting/calling or he'll just ignore you online.