How to Break Up?

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Registered: 09-04-2005
How to Break Up?
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Mon, 11-19-2007 - 7:08pm
I've been dating a very nice guy for 2 months now and we've been intimate since the 3rd date.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 11-25-2007 - 1:45pm

Glad to hear that you were able to do this and that it didn't go as badly as you feared.

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Registered: 09-04-2005
Sun, 11-25-2007 - 3:32pm

Well, interestingly enough, when I had "the conversation", he mentioned that he'd never had the courage to tell someone -

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Registered: 03-19-2004
Sun, 11-25-2007 - 9:26pm

It's easier when we are honest than trying to make things up to say because we don't want to hurt the other person.

Anna

 

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Registered: 10-14-1999
Mon, 11-26-2007 - 7:59am

>>Tell him the timing is not right in dating and being in an intimate relationship, it's not him, and you have some things you need to work on right now.

Toni

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Registered: 03-19-2004
Mon, 11-26-2007 - 9:21am
Toni, I agree with what you are saying.

Anna

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 11-26-2007 - 12:38pm

Oh, wow, I hope the guy you ended things with will learn from your gracious example and not just disappear on people any more!


My guy resurfaced yesterday--he had a fight with his mom on Thanksgiving and needed to withdraw for a couple days.

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Mon, 11-26-2007 - 12:41pm

Let him know that you want to have a conversation about something serious so it's not a bolt from the blue


and yes its good to do it when he doesn't have to worry about going right back to the office

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Registered: 10-14-1999
Mon, 11-26-2007 - 8:28pm

I didn't suggest going into details on teh 'why' part. I have been asked that - and I just reiterated that 'this wasn't working for me and I think it best to not see each other any longer'. People who ask for details and

Toni

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Registered: 11-10-2007
Tue, 11-27-2007 - 4:05pm

If you can't get rid of this guy...you can resort to dirty tactics.

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