how can I get a date offline?
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| Tue, 08-01-2006 - 12:41pm |
Hi All-
I haven't been on a date for a year, since I moved to a new location. When I first moved here I met a great guy on match.com whom I dated for about 2 months before he broke up with me for someone else. I have been using match for years now, and back in boston I would be able to get a date fairly easily. But since this last guy I dated here, there has been no one I've been interested in writing back to (I think in some locations, online dating is still considered to be for losers).
the problem is, I really just want a date. I just want that little bit of excitement in my life, you know? I keep thinking about this last guy I dated, a year ago, and I need something new. I really want to stop thinking about him.
So how do I get a date offline? I've never done it. No suggestions of joining clubs and stuff thanks, because I've already got all the hobbies I need (and none of them have happened produced any datable men). Can I approached people at the grocery store? (there's no public transportation here, so that's the first thing I think of). If so, what can I say that will make me seem intreguing and not really lame?

have you tried bars or clubs? I know that's not everyone's fav but if you're looking good when you go you might get that date (;
aside from that...friends of friends? I dont know myself...or i wouldnt be single...i am considering online dating...i'm actually in boston (:
>aside from that...friends of friends? I dont know myself...or i wouldnt be single...i am >considering online dating...i'm actually in boston (:
unfortunately everyone I know down here only knows the same people I do (we're all grad student transplants, and if there were a single guy anyone knew, I'm pretty sure everyone would want him for themselves).
the bar scene around here isn't great- mostly undergrad bimbos.
Also, if I could choose a place to meet someone great it wouldnt have been a computer store - I realize this is lame:) it is what happened though and it kind of proves my point I guess which is that if you are being yourself and you are out and about you will meet people! There is no right place - I think it is all about being comfortable with who you are and open to new people...
In terms of dating I was trying to say before that it is kind of overwhelming. Maybe the location and your experience makes that make more sense now. Too many choices isnt necessarily a good thing. Lots of beautiful people doesnt equal lots of quality people. It just means it takes longer to find the quality people because you have to work your way through the crowd.