How can I get my date to invite me?
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How can I get my date to invite me?
| Mon, 04-12-2004 - 2:08pm |
I have been in a non committed relationship for 1 1/2 years. The man I am in love with is a doctor and is in the process of setting up his practice. He was in school when we met. Because of his situation, he feels that he can't have a serious relationship, but we see each other at least once a week.
I have tried to "break it off" since he has major commitment issues, but every time I do he "reels me back in." I love him so much that I can't say no.
His best friend is getting married in August. He is going to be the best man and he was telling me about it yesterday. The wedding will be in Hawaii. I would LOVE to go along, but I know that if he invites me, it'll be last minute... Is there any way I can respectfully ask him to bring me as his date without scaring him off?
I have tried to "break it off" since he has major commitment issues, but every time I do he "reels me back in." I love him so much that I can't say no.
His best friend is getting married in August. He is going to be the best man and he was telling me about it yesterday. The wedding will be in Hawaii. I would LOVE to go along, but I know that if he invites me, it'll be last minute... Is there any way I can respectfully ask him to bring me as his date without scaring him off?

You didn't ask for opinions on your situation, but I hope you don't mind if I give mine anyway. I hate to see women settling for less than they need and deserve, that's all. If you're looking for a committed, serious relationship, why are you investing so much time in a man who doesn't want that, with you? I hope you're not waiting for the "right time" in his life to arrive when he will suddenly change his mind and realize you're the woman of his dreams. If you were, he'd know it by now, and nothing would stop him from snatching you up and committing to you. IMO you deserve a man who is eager and enthusiastic about getting serious with you; a man who wants the same thing you want, with you. But sadly, you'll never find that so long as you settle for this. Best wishes.