How can I learn to trust my instincts more???

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-13-2006
How can I learn to trust my instincts more???
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Tue, 06-11-2013 - 11:41am

I had posted on her in another forum.Basically I would like to know how to go about trusting my instincts more because I do want to get involved in a healthy relationship with someone who is sincere and dont play games.I would like to be able to be more forceful in ending things when I see red flags..instead of just dragging things out more because I'm unsure of ending things.

I am currently not in any relationship but I would like to know how to avoid the undesirables if at all possible.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 06-11-2013 - 3:40pm

I think you just need to decide that you get bad feelings about someone for a reason and if your gut feelings have been correct in the past, you just decide to trust yourself to know what's good or bad for you.

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Registered: 02-25-2013
Wed, 06-12-2013 - 9:50am

Make a must-haves list and a dealbreakers list and stick with it. Common lists for must-haves are: Makes time for me, faithful, kind respectful, financially stable, high work ethic, has same life goals (marriage or not, children or not). Dealbreaker lists usually include: substance abuse problems, physically or mentally abusive, financially unstable, gambles, cheats. When your heart and brain are telling you the same thing, he's the one. If the heart is overruling the brain, he's not the right one. Good luck.