How can I meet this guy? Please help!

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Registered: 02-03-2004
How can I meet this guy? Please help!
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Tue, 10-31-2006 - 12:10pm

I work at a university. I'm 33. A couple of months ago, I saw this cutie at the gym, and lost my heart to him. So far it looks like he's single and about the same age, maybe a little younger than me. I know his name and office address, but I can't figure out how to meet him. He's in a different department and building and I have no business to go there, and don't know anyone there. It's a big university. I know his phone number and email address but I dare not initiate contact. And he hasn't been coming to the gym for a while.

How can I engineer a meeting??? He rarely comes out of his building. I've never seen him at the campus cafeteria at lunchtime. Does he not eat? I sometimes hang out outside his building, but I can't keep doing that.

Please help - any ideas will be appreciated.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 12:17pm

karrieann2004...

How good are your 'baking skills?' Do you think you could whip up a batch of toll house cookies or something else that's equally tasty?

PG is a firm believer in the adage: "the way to a man's heart is through HIS STOMACH!"

So once you've done the baking...wrap a bunch of your 'creations' and bring 'em over to the gym. Not only will you surprise the heck out of the man, but he might give you a better indication if there's a wife, g/f or s.o. in his life?

GOOD LUCK!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 12:21pm

You have a couple of choices. 1) Call him up, tell him who you are and why you are calling. You have an outside chance of him being interested enough to have a look-see at who is so interested.

2) Walk into his office and ask him whether he is Mr. Smith. When he tells you he isn't, apologize profusely and tell him sorry about the confusion. Then mention you know him from the gym. Then ask for his help in finding Mr. Smith in the office area. This should get the ball rolling with a conversation.

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Registered: 02-03-2004
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 1:02pm

Thanks for the responses! Pianoguy, your baking idea will unfortuantely not work, bcos he doesn't come to the gym anymore :=) I can't show up with cookies everyday and hope that he'll be there.

Chamey, your idea is great, but I just don't know if I can pull it off. He works on the third floor, and I don't know the layout of his building. So to get to him, I'll probably have to get past dozens of other people, and by then someone will have asked me what I'm doing there and my Mr. Smith ploy would have fizzled out. Also, a lot of these offices within buildings have security doors at the entrance of the department - my office does, so I wouldn't be able to get past the gatekeepers anyway.

I wish I could draw him out of his office somehow. It's going to be worth it, I know, he's so cute in a quiet, shy kind of way...

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 1:06pm

Dating is a numbers game, and this number may be more difficult than it is worth. Short of making a phone call and telling this man that you have been stalking him, there isn't much that I can think of to draw this guy out.

It may be time to go back to the drawing board. You can always pounce on this man if you see him at the gym again.

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Registered: 02-02-2005
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 2:05pm
I agree this could be more trouble than it's worth...you never know, he could have an SO...or not to sound totally negative, but maybe he just wont be interested ya know? If I were you, i'd try to be around him, catch his attention when you physically see him...but personally i woudlnt go to these lengths to get his number to contact him...i would certainly need some type of inclination that he was interested in me back first.
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Registered: 12-27-2004
Wed, 11-01-2006 - 12:50pm
I'd let it go myself. I agree.
Somethings aren't really worth the trouble and I'm a firm believer that if it's for you, you'll get it.
He just might have a s/o or not interested or whatever.
I'm sure others will probably say nothing ventured, nothing gained. Do nothing get nothing. But guess what? Sometimes you do something and you get nothing too. It doesn't always work the way we want it too.
I'd rest myself and let it go. Besides, you know nothing about him at all.
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Registered: 02-02-2005
Wed, 11-01-2006 - 1:22pm

'Sometimes you do something and you get nothing too.'

True dat...and it doenst always feel good that you at least tried, lol. Sometimes it makes you feel worse