How can I slow down things
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How can I slow down things
| Fri, 07-02-2004 - 6:00pm |
I posted a message yesterday by "What do you think about this", thanks a lot for your support.I really think I have to slow down things with this guy. Even though I know he is giving too much of himself for this rel to grow. I have never been married and I'm really looking for the one and I'm scared that if I slow down things he will pull back since I know , have noticed that he feels something special (I have been thru a lot in relationships) and this one seems sincere. if you can give me some opinion on how should I slow down things. He called me today and said that he took the day of tomorow to spend all day with me. He wants to take me to a restaurant near the beach and then walk on the beach (he thinks is a romantic idea).

I think this guy's shot himself in the foot with you. He is making it too easy for you. I dunno, but I think women love the thrill of the chase too! When a man makes himself too available, and you don't have to work to get him, there is no challenge. That sounds really terrible, but it is a phenomonon that me and my girlfriends have decided existd recently. We LIKE to sit there and wonder if he'll call (and then get REALLY happy when he does!) there seems to be some kind of adrenalin rush involved with uncertainty...."If I ask him to do this with me, will he say yes?" instead of taking it for granted that he'll jump at what ever you ask of him.
But hey. That's just me and my thoughts. As far as slowing things down... you could always say "I wanna take this slowly?" :)
Luck to you.