How can I take it to the next step?

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Registered: 02-26-2006
How can I take it to the next step?
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Sun, 02-26-2006 - 4:28pm
I've been dating this guy for a few months now and things are great. He treats me amazingly... but there is nothing sexual in our relationship. We kiss and it's right but I've given many chances to get more intimate but he doesn't ever do anything. I guess I should mention, it took months before we finally started dating and even then it was me who made the first move. How can I get him to be more intimate with me?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 11:10am

sweetlilweblette...

Believe it or not...there are some men who DON'T LIKE TO BE RUSHED! Pianoguy has a hunch your b/f from the 2 month relationship falls under this category.

The moment a man becomes intimate with any woman...there are usually 'expectations from the lady' afterwards. And I'll bet this gentleman you're seeing doesn't want to put YOU or HIMSELF ON THE SPOT?

Why not give your relationship another month before you bring up the "why aren't we doing it together" question? Of course...there's always the possibility that the man you're dating is INCREDIBLY SHY and isn't used to taking the initiative?

Something to think about if you're "considering marriage...or a long-term relationship?"

Pianoguy

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Registered: 11-28-2005
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 12:01pm

All that is happening is that you're not his "girlfriend" in his opinion. He's willinto dateyou - maybe even pay, he's willing to have whatever fun, conversation and companionship that YOU want to ahve - that YOU instigate...but he does't want obligation.

If you want sex........pursue sex...just like you're pursuing dating him, and kissing him..he's not adverse to doing whatever with you...but he's adverse to obligation. He might associate his initiation as you thinking he wants obligation - not just sex.

Erin
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 03-02-2006 - 1:58pm

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