How can I trust him again?
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How can I trust him again?
| Fri, 09-17-2004 - 10:49am |
I caught my fiance of 2 years looking at porn. I know to some women this isnt a big deal, but to me it is. I feel that if you are in a serious relationship then there is no reason for looking at other naked people. This was the first time that I caught him and he tells me that the only reason he was looking at it was to make me jealous. What is that supposed to mean?
Is it normal for all guys to have the urge to look at other naked women besides their comitted partner? If so, why has this society made it seem okay for men to do this?

He will most likely continue to view it but he'll just get better at hiding it from you.
Have fun!
Most likely he said he was looking to make you jealous because either 1) he was joking or 2) he didn't think you would understand.
Good luck!
What makes you think we don't say anything because we are spineless?? I personally don't think there is anything wrong with pornography...I'm secure in my body, my sexuality and my SO's affection for me not to be offended if he looks at porn. It has nothing to do with me being spineless, it has to do with me feeling secure in myself.
As for porn, I don't believe it's wrong. It doesn't hurt my feelings. I know I'm hot and I also know that no man expects me to look like the girls in the mag. I also know that men realize that no one really looks like those models, and that the best way to get girls like those in the mag is to have a fat wallet.
But if you want him to stop looking at pictures of other women then I believe the only solution is to provide him pictures of yourself! That way you're happy, he's happy, and you can avoid the power struggle that you seem determined to begin!