How can I word this??

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Registered: 09-17-2006
How can I word this??
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Sat, 10-14-2006 - 3:40pm

Okay....weird storey kind of, LOL.

I was in a pretty crummy relationship that I left (bad on so many levels). Right when I left I wasn't really looking to meet someone, but I did....TOO SOON! We went on a few dates, and talked on the phone a LOT (him calling me). At first I was really okay with everything, but then as soon as he wanted more emotionally from me I froze at first, and then went too much in the commitment direction to make up for my distance, and REALLY messed up. I had way too high of expectations of him, I tried to play mind games, I confused the heck out of him, and myself. I had one really bad week, and just let things spiral right out of control. I was, and am over my ex, but there was just so much other stuff going on in life that I just couldn't keep up my normal groove, relax, and just be myself. At first I really was myself with him, and he really felt a strong connection, and so did I, but I just didn't know how to react to things. I appologized too soon as well, and I think it all came accross really wrong. It was still when I was in a state of confusion, and it just was pathetic. He got turned off, and I think I kind of insulted him in a way as well, and told him I just had too much going on.

He really is exactly what I was looking for, and I think we had a really good chance of being happy, and I think we both really enjoyed eachothers company (up until I went weird on him) it was just really the wrong time for me. I don't know if he's "the one", but I just got a really good vibe off him, and would really love to give things another shot. How should I approach this? I still want to give myself some more time to make double sure I don't fall back into being like that with him. I think I'll at least give it another month, and then reavaluate things, and maybe send him an email. I just don't know how I should word things in the email? I don't want to make it too complicated, I just want him to realize I'm still interested, but at the same time I would like him to know that I realized I messed up, and I realize the reasons why as well.

I totally know it will be his choice from there on in, but I just am NOT good with email writing....so I need a little help, please!!! (Emails are what got me into the mess with him in the first place as well, LOL).

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 10-15-2006 - 8:52am

dryginger_007...

Pianoguy suggests that you send this man a "snail mail" friendship card. Write a short note inside indicating that you'd like to TREAT HIM TO LUNCH at a favorite restaurant and ask him when it would be convenient?

Do NOT go into any of your feelings until the 2 of you are sitting across the table from one another.

Then...choose your words carefully.

If the man is willing to give the 2 of you another chance...or just says: "I'm not interested in trying again"---you'll know by the time lunch is over!

Good Luck!

Pianoguy