how can you tell if he's interested?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-05-2004
how can you tell if he's interested?
1
Thu, 10-21-2004 - 12:47am

I met this guy through a friend of mine, and I thought that we really hit it off. He asked for my number and said he'd definately call. Well a week went by without a phonecall and I had kinda written him off and then he added me to MSN. He told me he hadn't called cuz he only has cell and he'd have to pay long distance charges to call me (we live two hours apart) and he can't afford to right now. He told me later that he had feeling for my friend before we met, and I think this is the real reason why I never got the phone call.
We ended up hanging out the next weekend with my friend and some other people and he began to flirt with me. At one point in the night he also kissed me.
Its been about two weeks since the kiss and we've talked on MSN a bunch of times, and he gave me his phone number "in case I ever wanted to talk" to him. I've never called him because I really dont know if he's interested in me.

Does anyone have any idea how I can tell if this guy is interested without flat out asking him?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-23-2004
Thu, 10-21-2004 - 6:35am

Hi Night echo,

Him not calling you after the first time u met could be due to several reasons..One, him having feelings for your friend Two..it's "the guy thing"...where they don't call too soon..some take 3 to 10 days ...Three, he just thinks that the distance is too far to start anything..Four..he is dating someone already.

MSN is great and fun! But does he ask when u guys can meet again..because u guys kissed etc and on his mind ( any normal guy ) would be thinking of the next step..and 2 weeks is a long time. So if he is interested...he should be finding ways and means of coming over PRONTO! And are you sure he is not dating someone already ? And does he tell you to call him since it's expensive on his part?....And if he really was interested he would want to hear your voice.. he would call you for atleast 5 minutes.....or 3 minutes..and tell you to call him back ( share the expense).

My advice would be not to call him..keep on chating on msn..flirt with him..and see what he says and where it leads.....And take it slow ..don't have to much expectations....he just might be keeping you as stand by( sorry ) but it could be that too.And when he gets back to town ..Sure !!still go out with him..but guard your heart!

Take your time....date other guys....and just wait and see what happens...

Good luck..aand let me know how it goes..i have posted this question before..and asked myself the same question lots of time.