How to choose between 2?????

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Registered: 07-16-2003
How to choose between 2?????
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Fri, 09-17-2004 - 12:56pm
Completely different unable to even be compared to one another-

I know not what I want!!!!!

they're both smart and fun great guys

I know for sure one Love's me and wants me FOREVER (known for like 3-4 yrs) Only stays out of trouble b/c his dad's a cop and he's a little conservative, takes care of me, has done nothing to make a future for himself, yet he's responsible and somewhat mature.

the other wants to play it by ear - probably not that serious (known for like month 1/2)

I like them both A LOT I just don't know what to do, gets into trouble, little crazy, finishing last semester in college, has the means to take care of me, not mature really at all and procrastinates responsibilities.

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Fri, 09-17-2004 - 3:09pm
Doesn't sound like either is a good match. You seem to be really looking for someone who is responsible and financially sound. You want someone who can support you while you raise the family, right?

I think the best piece of advice I can give is NEVER settle for less than you want.

Alison

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Registered: 07-16-2003
Fri, 09-17-2004 - 4:07pm
Thanks! and you're right. I have my head on stright mostly but I like to have an extraordinarilly good time most of the time. I'm not really ready to settle down. But that is a great point you made and good advice - I appreciate your response and definately will keep it in mind.
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Registered: 09-17-2004
Fri, 09-17-2004 - 5:11pm
I agree with the previous posting that they don't sound like great matches. It's ok that your not ready to settle down but definitely keep your eyes open for red flags such as those that these guys present.

Most important though you want to be able to take care of yourself before you depend on someone else to take care of you. Of course when your ready to get serious you want a man who is financially stable, has a good job . . . but be able to take care of yourself first. You never know what your future will bring. Good luck!