How could they do this to me?

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Registered: 04-18-2004
How could they do this to me?
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Sun, 04-18-2004 - 5:07pm
I dated a guy for two years, and we broke up a little over a year ago. We have been seeing each other on and off since then, and yes, we have been intimate. Very resently we have been talking about calling it quits for good. In the past month, my roommate has been giving him rides when I couldn't (his car is in the shop). I didn't think too much of it, until I found out that they have been spending a lot of time together. I heard rumors from her cousin that she introduced him as her boyfriend to her aunt and uncle. I confronted her about it, and she insisted that they are just friends. I want to believe her, but I have a gut feeling that they are actually together, and are sleeping together. I haven't confermed it with her yet, but there are too many coincidences to believe otherwise. It makes me sick to think of them together, physically sick. I can't believe that as a friend and a roommate she would do this to me, and he has a lot of nerve too. He's not worth it to me anymore to try to work things out, and neither is she. I can't move out or kick her out because our lease is not up until July. I just want to deal with it and move on, but I don't know how. Any suggestions?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 04-18-2004 - 5:35pm
Well they aren't going to openly admit it to you, however once July rolls around I would either move out, or if this is your apartment ask her to leave. You are going on rumors though so they may not be true, but if they are, she's no friend.
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Registered: 02-19-2004
Sun, 04-18-2004 - 8:03pm
Hey Funspork, all I can say is that if you have a gut feeling than go with it. THAT's how I found out the truth, I think what you might want to do is investigate, just so you know for yourself when they do deny it.

I'm sorry you have to go through it, why are men such pigs? But here's something that beens helping me, if a guy really loved you, he wouldn't make you feel this way. If he makes you feel like this right now, he's not going to make you feel any better in the long run.

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Registered: 04-18-2004
Sun, 04-18-2004 - 8:23pm
I've accepted the fact that we will never be together again. I don't think after this, I would take him back even if he came back. What hurts me more, is that two people I thought I knew well, and I thought I was close to, and I thought they cared about me, could do this to me. I realize now that they have no morals. Thanks for your reply.