How Dare Him!

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Registered: 03-15-2006
How Dare Him!
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Wed, 07-12-2006 - 2:19pm

My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years. We are high school sweethearts. 7 years ago he cheated on me twice, I found out, he admitted, I accepted the apology and we continued our relationship. Last week I had this hunch that there have been more times that he has cheated on me, so in a heated argument the other day, I said something about it and he agreed, yes there were other times I kissed the girl that I cheated on you with (the second time he cheated). I was so dumbfounded, I didn't say a thing.

This happened 7 years ago, so I don't know if I should be angry, or if I should just let it go. It just makes me feel as though there have been other times that he is not telling me about, so now I feel like the last 8 years have been a lie. I feel like this relationship is going nowhere. We have been together for 8 years and there is no marriage yet and I just don't understand why. Whenever I bring it up (which was never until this year), he tells me I'm pushing him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-08-2005
In reply to: chicquitas
Wed, 07-12-2006 - 7:14pm
Leave! Leave! Leave!
Do not waste another year with this man!
I must ask why do you stay after all of what he has done,or why do you stay period?
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Registered: 11-24-2004
In reply to: chicquitas
Thu, 07-13-2006 - 1:41am
I wasted a lot of time with a bloke similar to your bf. And all I can say is, he'll NEVER be ready for marriage. He hasn't popped the question. He's cheated and he's probably still cheating. Don't waste another minute with this commitmentphobe. You don't want to be cowtowing to him for another 8 years!

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Registered: 03-15-2006
In reply to: chicquitas
Thu, 07-13-2006 - 1:29pm
I guess I took him back because we were so young, I was only 16, and I was MADLY in love with him. You know how it goes when you are in high school. It's taken me so long to realize how poor he is realy treating me, even though he tells me I am the one for him. BUT no ring, still after 8 years.