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| Sat, 12-18-2004 - 10:04pm |
I need some advise! There is this guy that I've known for 8 months...he lives in NY, I'm in PA, so we don't see each other very often, but we were talking on the phone nearly every night for hours on end. We both told each other how much we care about the other and we've gone through a lot together. Both of our grandmothers died the same day and we supported each other through it, along with other daily stuff. I was slowly falling in love with him, and I was sure that if we were closer we'd be together, no question of it.
Lately, hes been having some stress problems and needed time to himself and so we havn't talked as much, but he comes around once in a while and we'll talk about what's going on and stuff. Everything is still good when we get to talk, but the past month it's been rough. I want more than anything else to go to his house for New Years and just be with him...he's all I want...I really could see myself marrying this man, he's so incredible! I'm just really going crazy because I don't know how to talk to him about visiting while all this is going on...should I just let it go because of this and wait til a later time when he's doing better? I just want to see him, pull him into my arms and tell him that everything will be alright...I really want to give us a chance even though we have a distance between us...he's worth it, I may never find someone as amazing and perfect as he is...I just don't know what to do right now. HELP!
Thank you in advance!
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Bellina sends holiday greetings! Well since you know this fellow for eight months and share something very traumatic in common,losing grandmothers,and have a nice friendship going,one shouldn't hold back communicattions.If you're both single,care aboutt one another deeply convey a sense of wanting to comfort him in a visit.Call and see if it's possible to get together during this wonderfully sentimental time of year,a time for joy,hope and peace,renewing and getting close with friends and family.Usually people who've lost loved ones would be receptive to some support,TLC during the holiday season.I know this as I've lost my dear parents in August to cancer( a horrific disease).Closeness and affections areein dire need during such a loss,so get closer by communicating with him.If he's able to visit or you go to his town,wouldn't that be the lovliest Christmas gift and New Year surprise of all! I'm seeing someone whos also lost a parent to cancer like myself,share many interests,backgrounds,spiritual beliefs,and have found joy in comforting one another.Be spontaneous,do not hesitate to mention getting together very soon,you may be the right kind of company and good cheer he's looking for.Best wishes and happiest holidays! your Brit galfriend Bellina Faire
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