how do i

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Registered: 10-30-2007
how do i
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Tue, 10-30-2007 - 12:28am
ok i am going 2 start off by just telling my story well ok about 5 months ago i got on myspace and i seen this girl on there that just caught my eye and we lived like 10mins away from each other well about towards the 3erd month we meet and we hit it off right then there just stared hanging out more and more but like about 2 weeks of us hanging out we where bowling and she gets phone call she got off the phone and she says this is the last game i can play and i say why she said billys coming up then i asked here who was that she said just 1 of my ex's then we get done at the bowling ally then we went 2 her house and i wanted 2 meet this billy dude just 2 ask him what i was getting in 2 but that didnt happen me and her where like pees and carrots b4 billy got there and when he got there she was just pushing me away then she just gets in 2 a car full of guys then me and my ride leaves and that was the last time we hung out a week went by then i talked 2 her then she sorry but i didnt want 2 tell u but i still was in love with billy but heres the thing billy and her where about 4 years ago then 3 weeks after she told me that then she tells me that he doesn't want her anymore and not ever again then we come 2 right now i know theres something there between us but i dont know how 2 break her fear of getting hurt and i told her she doesnt have 2 worrie about getting hurt by me well any ways i need 2 know how i can show her i will not ever hurt her but mind u i am a vary shy person but i am not shy at all on online
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Registered: 10-14-1999
In reply to: themillz
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 9:02am

you can't break HER fear of anything because its hers to deal with or not. You also cannot make her want to be with you and it doesn't sound like she is looking for what you want with her. She's still emotionally tied to her ex or ex's.


Should you decide to stick around do so knowing that you are in for a huge rollercoaster ride. Since you haven't invested that much here, why not wait until she's in a better place emotionally before trying to date her? You can't rescue her from her fears or pain and if you try, you will only create your own.


She needs to be left on the vine for awhile, she isn't ready to pick yet.

Toni

Toni

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Registered: 06-08-2006
In reply to: themillz
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 9:40pm

Ditto to everything Toni said.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
In reply to: themillz
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 5:44pm

Punctuation and spell check are wonderful things.


I think you're asking for trouble with this girl.

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