how do i deal?

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Registered: 10-07-2004
how do i deal?
Thu, 10-07-2004 - 10:29pm
A little over a month ago he broke up with me. We'd been together for two and a half years and have been living together for nearly a year now. He'd said from the start that we'd only be together for as long as was wanted and that when it ended we'd just have to accept and move on. Well, I'm not quite sure how to just accept and move on. He says he still loves me and I believe him. He says he felt that the relationship was just over. And, he moved on and has a new girl (yes, she was the final piece of his decision to break it off with me). We're still living together (until January), we're still having sex. But, I'm not confused about whether we'll get back together. A change of heart is a change of heart, sex isn't going to fix that. I've been angry at him, I still cry alot, when I start to feel better it creeps up on me and I fall back into depression. Though, it's not as severe as it was the first few weeks.

The part that worries me the most and brings the most pain is the loss of support. How I deal with having lost my confidant? I still tell him everything that I'm thinking, and since this is most of what I'm thinking about, he's accordingly reluctant and sometimes just unwilling to talk with me. I know that he still cares, that he still loves me. I know that he will still be there for me as a friend. I just feel so alone and confused now, I don't know how to move on without that support.