HOW DO I GET HIM BACK, AND SHOULD I TRY
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HOW DO I GET HIM BACK, AND SHOULD I TRY
| Mon, 06-21-2004 - 7:06pm |
I HAVE BEEN THROUGH A ROUGH DIVORCE AND HAVE 3 SMALL CHILDREN, THE MAN I WAS SEENING HAS AND EX-GIRLFRIEND AND A 6 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER WITH HER THEY WERE TOGETHER FOR 8 YEAR AND HE HAD NEVER BEEN FAITHFUL TO HER. I HAVE BEEN WITH HIM NOW FOR 9 MONTHS AND WE HAVE HAD SOME PROBLEMS (HE SLEPT WITH HIS X AND KEPT ME HANGING WHILE HE THOUGHT ABOUT HIS DECISION. HE LEFT ME HANGING ONE NIGHT AND WENT ON ANOUTHER DAY WITH SOMEONE HE HAD SLEPT WITH BEFORE BUT DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WITH HER THAT NIGHT AND THEN LIED ABOUT IT SERVERAL TIMES. BUT FOR THE PAST 5 MONTHS EVERYTHING WAS GOING BETTER THAN I COULD HAD POSSIBLY HOPED UNTIL HIS X GIRLFRIEND STARTED CRYING TO HIM THAT HE WAS SO FAR UP MY(U-NO-WHAT) THAT HE DIDN'T WANT TO DO ANYTHING ELSE AND THAT HE WAS A BAD FATHER AND SHE SAYS THINGS TO HER DAUGHTER THAT ARE NOT APPROPREATE. SHE MADE HIM FEEL GUILTY AND HE TURNED TO DRUGS SO FOR THREE WEEKS I HAD TO DEAL WITH THIS PROBLEM. THINGS WERE BACK TO NORMAL AGAIN AND THEN ONCE AGAIN SHE GAVE HIM A HARD TIME AND TOLD HIM IF HE STAYS WITH ME HE COULDN'T TAKE HIS DAUGHTER ANYMORE. SO NOW HE TELLS ME HE NEEDS TIME TO THINK AND THAT HE LOVES ME WITH ALL OF HIS HEART AND CRIES EVERYTIME HE SEES ME. I TOLD HIM I WOULD GIVE HIM TIME, BUT ALSO TOLD HIM TO COME GET HIS STUFF AND LEAVE HIS KEY. HE CAME TO PICK UP HIS STUFF BUT FORGET A FEW THINGS AND DID NOT LEAVE HIS KEY, AND I AM VERY HURT AND REALLY CONFUSED. HELP.

xxxDragonsbabybluexxx
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My advice is to lose him and concentrate on raising your children. Your love-life needs to take a back seat. Its not important right now.
Besides sex, in what ways is this man honoring you and your children? In what ways is he being your personal cheerleader? I see that HE'S benefiting from being with you, but what are you getting out of this? He's a taker, not a giver. Find someone that is going to put you and your children on a pedestal and treat you like royalty.
But this isn't going to happen until you believe that you are royalty. Why don't you think you deserve better? When you can answer that question, you'll be on your way to a better life and a better relationship with a good man. Dump this one.