how do I get him to propose faster? My time is ticking!
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|Mon, 04-29-2013 - 7:36pm|
I've been with my boyfriend for 1 year & 4 months. Totally in love. We have no issues, no arguements. No doubt in my mind we are meant to be. here's the thing. I am 38 and he's 30. I pretty much wasted 7 years of my life before I met this man in an abusive relationship, and waiting for him to desire to marry me and have children. HE was divorced and when I met him, he was set on no more kids/marriage, but I waited and thought he'd change his mind! 7 years later I finally left him. Anyway, so I meet my man now and he is the opposite of the ex. Wonderful in every way. I love his family and everyone around us constantly comments how happy we look etc. Here's the thing. it took him a while to even call me his gf. He was nervous about getting involved bc of his ex and a bad breakup. But after 5 months, he said I was his gf and shortly after was first to say he loved me. Ever since, it's been like a fairy tale love story for me. Except... i would like him to propose sometime soon and I feel bc of his age, he may take his sweet old time! I would also like children! Last week, I asked him formally (Assumed he did all along) if he'd like marriage and a family and he said yes, that he just didnt know when. I asked if he was unsure about US and he said no. He just doesn't know when. I dropped the subject. ANyway, I feel depressed often wondering why he has not proposed yet if we are completely in love, nor has he asked me to move in. When I brought up moving in a few months ago, he said he thinks about the future but that we hadn't been together long enough for that etc. bottom line is he just is not ready. He wants it, but just not now. I can wait just a little longer but my question is, how do I try to push him along without pressuring him?? When does a man decide he is ready? I feel depressed that no man has ever propsed to me! I feel like something is wrong with me. I see others getting engaged and some are losers etc and here I am, a good woman and he won't propose and act on it. I know he is cautious but I'm extrememly worried I will be waiting around forever and I only have a short time to have a baby left, if any. His family and friends keep briging it up to us (asking when we are getting married) to that he will just laugh and be awkward. It seems like something that makes him very nervous. I also should add that he never goes out with friends and we spend every single wkend together. He's not one of the types that has to have his boys nights out etc. Do I have reason to worry or will he come around some day soon? Thanks