how do i get over this?
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how do i get over this?
| Thu, 11-11-2004 - 12:24am |
Hi everyone:
i am always here when i need supportive words to get over my breakups and i go to the other board for advice too. You all have always been so great to me and you have helped me overcome many insecurities. And here i am once again in need of help w/ another issue.
I have this great b/f. He's as close to perfect as you can get them. One flaw...he's not all over me anymore. We have been dating for two years on and off and we just got back together from a 5 month breakup. I realize that we are both just readjusting to getting bck together, but the fact that he's not all over me and as romantic and sweet as when we first started dating really makes me insecure. It makes me feel as if he doesn't want to be with me, or doesn't love me and never will. Anyhow, these feeling don't allow me to enjoy the relationship and the great b/f i have b/c i am always over analizing every move of his and taking all to heart until i get sad or depressed. the thing is that this is nt the first time it happens to me. I have felt this way about everysingle b/f i have ever had and i have never been able to enjoy a relationship for these same reasons. I am afraid he won't commit, and won't love me or will want to run back to an ex. So instead of letting the hurt me, i hurt my self by dumping them or jepoerdizing the relationship and making them dump me. And more than once i have been wrong and the guys have loved me and been crazy about me.
So why do i keep doing this. Why do i expect so muchof them. See i want them to be romantic like in movies and blah blah blah. i dunno wat i want. I keep confronting my b/f about how i feel he doesn't want to be w/ me and yesterday he said that i simply just need to get over that and let it go. He's right! I dnon't know if i am right about him. I always say i shoul;d trust my gut but i have always been wrong about this.
I have to admit that there were a series of events that have intensified these feeling of them not wanting to be w/ me or e not being good enough for them to love (and they have nothing to do w/ my b/f) but i have felt this way for so long.
What should i do? how can i stop feeling this way and just be able to enjoy wat i have? why can't i just focus on the present and wat is now instead of wondering on wat's gonna be and wats gonna happen? wat advise can you give me besides therapy. i really want to know.if u want you can e-mail me: Leidy101@yahoo.com
i am always here when i need supportive words to get over my breakups and i go to the other board for advice too. You all have always been so great to me and you have helped me overcome many insecurities. And here i am once again in need of help w/ another issue.
I have this great b/f. He's as close to perfect as you can get them. One flaw...he's not all over me anymore. We have been dating for two years on and off and we just got back together from a 5 month breakup. I realize that we are both just readjusting to getting bck together, but the fact that he's not all over me and as romantic and sweet as when we first started dating really makes me insecure. It makes me feel as if he doesn't want to be with me, or doesn't love me and never will. Anyhow, these feeling don't allow me to enjoy the relationship and the great b/f i have b/c i am always over analizing every move of his and taking all to heart until i get sad or depressed. the thing is that this is nt the first time it happens to me. I have felt this way about everysingle b/f i have ever had and i have never been able to enjoy a relationship for these same reasons. I am afraid he won't commit, and won't love me or will want to run back to an ex. So instead of letting the hurt me, i hurt my self by dumping them or jepoerdizing the relationship and making them dump me. And more than once i have been wrong and the guys have loved me and been crazy about me.
So why do i keep doing this. Why do i expect so muchof them. See i want them to be romantic like in movies and blah blah blah. i dunno wat i want. I keep confronting my b/f about how i feel he doesn't want to be w/ me and yesterday he said that i simply just need to get over that and let it go. He's right! I dnon't know if i am right about him. I always say i shoul;d trust my gut but i have always been wrong about this.
I have to admit that there were a series of events that have intensified these feeling of them not wanting to be w/ me or e not being good enough for them to love (and they have nothing to do w/ my b/f) but i have felt this way for so long.
What should i do? how can i stop feeling this way and just be able to enjoy wat i have? why can't i just focus on the present and wat is now instead of wondering on wat's gonna be and wats gonna happen? wat advise can you give me besides therapy. i really want to know.if u want you can e-mail me: Leidy101@yahoo.com
