How do i get past this?
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How do i get past this?
| Tue, 09-28-2004 - 1:12pm |
I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 6 months and we are pretty serious. Since we started dating we have spent almost every day together. Whether it is going out to parties or just laying on the couch watching a movie, we always find time for each other. However, all of that is about to change....
He owns a huge farm and harvest season is about to start. He has warned me that he will be in the fields from about 6 a.m. to 11 or 12 p.m. everyday for the next two months. I am glad that he enjoys what he does but I have many concerns. He has said that he will try his best to see me but it will only consist of me riding in the tractor with him here and there. I know that he will always love me but I am so depressed about his new schedule that I can't get by it. I love him dearly and couldn't image myself without him but how do I get myself adjusted to this?

To REALLY get to know ANYBODY...is to understand and accept.
What's wrong with you getting 'down and dirty'...and learning about his work and why he enjoys it? Granted...the process may not appeal to you now...but what if the 2 of you became serious enough to be married? Do you think his lifestyle (and what he loves) would go through a complete transformation?
Instead of holding your breath waiting for the next 2 months to end....here's an opportunity to...pardon the song quote from Tammy Wynette..."stand by your man!"
Pianoguy
You can make the CHOICE to get involved and support him rather than making the "poor me I'm depressed" choice it seems you have made.
What he would deeply appreciate is if you were to make him a hot meal and take it out to the fields for him. Much of my family comes from a farming background. It is a close-knit community that works together. Its hard work, but the rewards are awesome.