How do I hit 'rewind'?

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Registered: 08-08-2004
How do I hit 'rewind'?
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Sun, 08-08-2004 - 2:53pm
I met this really interesting guy in an unusual way, and we immediately had this really interesting and full conversation which intrigued us both--and because of the unusualness and the immediate connection, we both felt that we met each other for a reason (though I never revealed it, he did--on the first date).

We had a fantastic and long conversation on the first date. It was unlike any first date conversation I've had, so I agree that we met for some reason, though not necessarily for dating...I mean, who knows? I am open to find out and explore it, but I am not naiive about it either. All I know is that this is a guy who I want to develop some type of rapport with.

The problem is that we got intimate too soon, and I went back to his place. I don't even know why I did it, because I wasn't even sure I wanted it to go in that direction. I think I just felt so comfortable with him right away. Anyway, I feel that it immediately neutralized this great energy that we had together, and now I am worried that we killed a potentially interesting and inspiring creative freindship.

It was Monday that this happened, and now it is Sunday. I am not sure if I should play the waiting game, or try to call and explain what I explained above, or what. What do I do? I don't want to kill the potential of a romance either.

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Sun, 08-08-2004 - 3:12pm
So he hasn't called you since then (and I'm assuming he knows how to get in touch with you)? Please clarify.
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Sun, 08-08-2004 - 3:24pm
I didn't realize I wasn't clear.

After we first met, he called a few times trying to make a date. We had made a date for that Friday, but I cancelled after the time got too late and we rescheduled for Monday. Monday we had the date, and he hasn't called since then. It is now Sunday.

I think the reason intimacy should be held off is because of the way it confuses things. He is probably expecting that I will want a romantic relationship with him right away...which is not what I want, necessarily. Like I said, I'd have to see. I can understand why he'd be hesitant to call.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 08-08-2004 - 3:32pm
Well, I think it is clear from his not calling for nearly a week that he's not interested in a romantic relationship with you. However, if you're ok with being platonic friends with him, then by all means give him a call. I wouldn't explain anything over the phone, but rather invite him to something "unromantic"; you can then talk to him when you see him.

Sheri