How do I know?

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Registered: 04-27-2004
How do I know?
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Tue, 04-27-2004 - 12:30pm
A friend of mine and my mother tell me this guy has a huge crush on me but he is too shy to ask me out. We are both in our early twentys and he is 2 years younger than I. He and my brother worked together one summer and became friends (he works for a friend of mine) so thats how I know him. We seem to get along and have fun hanging out on the rare occasion that we do. He'll tell me I should come and hang out sometime (at his house) but I have never received a specific invite. How do I know the difference between just want to hang out and too shy to ask you out?

Last week my friend even went to the extent of call him to tell him we would make a cute couple and if he'd consider asking me out. He said yes, but now I'm a little embarrassed and don't want him to think I asked her to do that, but I wouldn't mind if it helps. He'll be at a party I'm having this weekend, but he might come to visit with my brother.

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Registered: 03-28-2003
In reply to: aslynna
Tue, 04-27-2004 - 1:00pm
From what you have said, I dont think there is a question at all! If he didnt want to hang out with you, he wouldnt even have suggested that you come over somtime. He probably is shy and is hoping that if he says he wants you to come over, you will say ok and ask for his number or call him or whatever. A lot of really nice guys are just too shy to walk right up and ask you out. I hope the party goes well, I think you should mention to him that you'd like to take him up on that invite to come over somtime and see what he is doing later in the week. Dont worry about the friend thing, I am sure he doesnt think you asked her to say that, guys dont think about things like us girls do! Good Luck

Kristi

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: aslynna
Tue, 04-27-2004 - 1:05pm
Asynna...

If your brother and this guy who likes you are TIGHT....let your "bro" help you out.

Since you've unofficially had the invitation to join the two guys...do it. If you find strength in numbers...bring along a girlfriend who isn't gonna get interested in the man you like. Maybe....if your brother has a girlfriend....you could kick around the idea of attending a concert, ballgame, go bowling or doing something as a 4-SOME, but on a friendship basis?

This doesn't necessarily mean you have to be "paired off"---but the arrangment might make things a little less awkward for you.....and perhaps your "would-be boyfriend" too?

Best of luck and I hope you eventually get the man of your dreams?

Pianoguy