How do i make him want me?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-29-2004
How do i make him want me?
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Thu, 03-11-2004 - 11:07pm
I'm going to see my ex boyfriend tomorrow night...we have only been brocken up for 2 weeks... I dont know how to act around him... We didnt break up on bad terms... he just said that he didnt feel as if he was in the right spot... I know I shouldnt be the one to approach him... and I dont want to annoy him... so I really dont know what to do... What should I do to make him want me back...?Please Help!
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2003
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 11:48pm
You can't "make" someone want you. It's completely up to him and his own preference if he decides you are someone he wants to be with. You can only be yourself, carry yourself with dignity and realize your own worth, regardless of what HE might think. If you try to put on some kind of act to try and entice him into coming back to you, you will be a fake. And even if it worked at first,(which is doubtful) how long could you keep the act up?

But here's my question to you: why and under what circumstances are you going to see him?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 6:50pm
Now read this: YOU CAN'T MAKE A MAN LOVE OR WANT YOU!!

This has got to be his decision. You are not a circus poodle jumping through hoops! You do not bend over backwards for no man nor do you put him before you! You are not Susie Seductress trying to win him over. You are no booty call! Please love you and let him be! YOu are better than this madness!

Take care!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-05-2004
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 7:11pm
I know how you feel. I wrote the same letter a few weeks back, "How do I turn her from liking me to loving me?"

The fact is, you need to honor yourself first. Be true to yourself. There are certain things you are not willing to give up.. like.. maybe if he told you he wanted to sleep with you the first night back... would you? You need to know that going in. Stand your ground.

If you show him that you care about him, what more can you do? I mean, other than sleeping with him, which would be a huge mistake.

Honor thyself and respect him. That's the best advice I can give.