How do I meet guys, I mean really

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Registered: 03-21-2004
How do I meet guys, I mean really
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Mon, 04-12-2004 - 11:16pm
I can't meet ANY. And I've been doing the online thing for long enough to know that I am quite sick of it. In ordinary life, I NEVER meet any single men in their 20s. I mean WHERE do people meet? I worked with a bunch of guys my age at my last job, but they were all in serious relationships or engaged, so I never even considered any of them. My friends don't know anyone...my one friend who has a boyfriend with single friends has some kind of social hang up about introducing us to anyone...I just don't understand, am I supposed to pick guys up on the street? on the train? in the grocery store??? I mean how is meeting a guy possible, either there aren't any, or they lock themselves in their apartments and never come out!

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Registered: 02-04-2004
Tue, 04-13-2004 - 12:07am
lord, girl

i'm in the same position. i'd definitely like some hints. i met 2 guys at a club a few weeks ago and kept in touch w/ them. got together w/ one last week..and was warned about 'the light test' and he failed. he wasn't as cute as i remember. :( so now i'm back at square one

 

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Registered: 10-12-2003
Tue, 04-13-2004 - 5:22am
If the "light test" is what I'm thinking it is, that test is supposed to be performed the same night after the club! (Go to breakfast or something.) LOL. ;)

 

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Registered: 10-12-2003
Tue, 04-13-2004 - 11:26am
Ok, let's go at this nicely...

"girls never have difficulty meeting guys"

This is simply not true.

"and if you girls are so picky about club scence then why do u even go there"

You were making assumptions here based on a little light hearted humor.

"besides i havent found a single girl who likes me either"

So you're going to take this out on us? And I'm sure that that statement isn't 100% true...

"i think u need to look carefully and give some average joes a chance too"

This is a HUGE assumption on your part--how would you even know what type of guys any of us go for?

"picky pricks"

Simply uncalled for...


 

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Registered: 03-21-2004
Tue, 04-13-2004 - 9:28pm
um, I'm f-ing not "picky" to a bad degree. I can't meet ANYONE to pick and choose over! don't call *me* names. Girls don't meet guys as easily as you think, what the hell do you think I can do, just because I'm a girl I can go hit on random people on the street???
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 1:44am
Im in the exact same boat as you buggie10. I wonder the same question and Im not in my 20´s anymore. Like you I ask myself the same question Do I suppose to pick just like that guys on the street? I dont think so and Im really not into that.

Please if someone has a good advice for us in this same position, please do tell.

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Registered: 10-12-2003
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 11:17am
Ok, on a serious note...

The times I've met the most guys are the times when I was doing things to advance myself. I've met a ton of guys in school, clubs, organizations I belong to, etc. So my advice is to join groups that interest you whether it be softball or literary groups or going back to school for a class... You're at your best when you're doing what you like and that tends to attract people.

Hope this helps.

 

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Registered: 04-07-2004
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 4:48pm
I have a problem too. I usually go out clubbing--but there I run into the problems of having a guy think he owns me just if he buys me a drink(sometimes at a handshake) or if I dance with him. I freak when I dance, so just if I give you bootie in the crotch doesn't mean you get my number. It ain't love out there. I just try to smile a lot, give good (strong) handshakes, and wear something conversational--I have a pair of patch jeans that I made that works everytime. But you usually can't find love on the dance floor despite what some songs may say. I recently met a guy at a resturant I go to--that's yet to be determined. Otherwise, I've always met a guy thru friends or school.
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Registered: 03-21-2004
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 5:22pm
see, I do all that stuff, but i've never met any single guys.
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Registered: 06-25-2003
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 5:34pm
Ok, I'm in the same boat. I don't want to go to clubs anymore. I'm in a yoga class, but most of my male classmates are either gay or dragged their by their girlfriends/spouses. I have been on some setups, but it seems that most people who set me up really only do it because both me and guy are single. Not because they think we would actually get along well or have anything in common.

A friend of mine swears by Starbucks. She finds a busy one on a Saturday afternoon and plants herself in a chair with a book. She says she always gets approached. I just don't think I could sit around that long waiting for a guy to pick me up.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 5:55pm
Have you tried doing activities in a group specifically geared towards singles? My city has several such groups. I personally haven't had any luck meeting a guy who was right for me, but I've met some fun women and other people HAVE had luck.

Sheri

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