How do I meet guys, I mean really

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Registered: 03-21-2004
How do I meet guys, I mean really
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Mon, 04-12-2004 - 11:16pm
I can't meet ANY. And I've been doing the online thing for long enough to know that I am quite sick of it. In ordinary life, I NEVER meet any single men in their 20s. I mean WHERE do people meet? I worked with a bunch of guys my age at my last job, but they were all in serious relationships or engaged, so I never even considered any of them. My friends don't know anyone...my one friend who has a boyfriend with single friends has some kind of social hang up about introducing us to anyone...I just don't understand, am I supposed to pick guys up on the street? on the train? in the grocery store??? I mean how is meeting a guy possible, either there aren't any, or they lock themselves in their apartments and never come out!

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Registered: 04-24-2004
Sun, 04-25-2004 - 12:29am
just dropping my (common) 2cents. i agree with everyone who suggested meeting guys by doing stuff you're interested in. even if you don't meet a guy, you will be building character, etc. which will increase your esteem and appeal.

if you're already doing this and seeing potentials, maybe you could sacrafice a little female pride and make the first move. guys love it and you can speed up the process =].

if you're still not meeting anyone, continue doing what you love or try something new that interests you. many of my friends have thrown "singles" parties. if you have friends that are all dating someone, trying throwing a party that requires each couple to bring single friends. this way, you're meeting singles that you trust.

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Registered: 02-04-2004
Sun, 04-25-2004 - 1:11am
this is where the thread headed off to!! i've been looking for completely forgot what the title was (yes its been THAT long since i've been back on here)

i think all the information is great. i'm sure it'll help many people.

i have simply given up on trying to find someone to date. i'm not looking for mr. right, the one and all that, but my family is going to start thinking i'm a lesbian or something if i dont start bringing more guys around. (thats a joke!) anyways, i tried the whole meeting through friend thing. the club thing just aint happening for me. i go to dance and have fun w/ ma girls and never drink. but i know waht the other poster means by guys trying to own you after one dance. lol..

yeah so i'm just lost and i've given up. i just can't think of anything else.

and i dont think i'm picky, is asking for someone who is cute and who you have something in common with being picky?? hmmmm

 

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Registered: 04-17-2004
Sun, 04-25-2004 - 11:48am
I know what you mean, hockeybabe. I'm in my 40's, but everywhere I go, if there are guys there, they are in their 20's and certainly not interested in an older chick. I've started doing things I'm interested in, but unfortunately those activities seem to attract either people half my age, or people almost twice my age. I just don't seem to fit in anywhere. I'm definitely not a social butterfly, in fact, wallflower would be a more apt description of me in a group. I don't want to go to bars or clubs because if I did, it would be for the sole purpose of meeting someone.I wouldn't want to attract someone that wanted to spend every weekend in the bars. Same with sports bars - I don't watch sports, so why try to attract a sports nut that's going to want to watch football games every weekend? I agree that you do have to engage in activities that interest you if you want to attract men with common interests. But I guess you also have to expand your horizons and investigate activities you would find fun, but are also attractive to guys.
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Registered: 02-23-2004
Sun, 04-25-2004 - 5:41pm
< Same with sports bars - I don't watch sports, so why try to attract a sports nut that's going to want to watch football games every weekend? >

Perhaps you're narrowing your horizons a bit-just because you meet a guy in a sports bar doesn't mean he's a sports fanatic whose only interest is sports. Maybe he's just there to hang out with his friends. I mean, my DH likes to watch sports but he's not glued to the TV every time there's a sporting event on. And I'm not talking about just sports either-I mean, let's face it you may be interested in art but there just aren't that many guys who are going to be hanging out in a museum on a Sunday afternoon-that doesn't mean they couldn't be interested in art, it's just not something a lot of guys would do without a girlfriend. I'm just saying that if you want to meet single guys, you've got to go places single guys are going to be. And I wouldn't rule out a whole group of people based on one interest they may have that you don't share.

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Registered: 04-25-2004
Sun, 04-25-2004 - 6:33pm
Buggie: A guy here, sorry married! Hey have you ever considered golf, lots of guys there and most of them are somewhat cultured and tend to have a few bucks of their own as well.

Weddings are fun and you often meet new people as well, not to mention you get to dress up!

The old saying goes when your not looking they will find you, so the key there is to circulate in the places you love most, then when you find someone of interest, you may just have something in common.

Bars are not ideal as you don't necessarily want to have alcoholism in common, that's a bad thing!

Circulate to perculate my dear and they will find you, when you least expect it. Dan Auito

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Registered: 04-26-2004
Mon, 04-26-2004 - 12:58am
Hey the best way to meet guyz or hook up with guyz is thru your own guy friends.I mean cmon 1st of all u already now what is he like and if u guyz can get it on.I've been goin out with my bf for lil over than a year and i know him for like 2 years and its awesome.I know him in and out by now , well its been 3 years.Iam sure some of your guy friends like u so just try it and see how it works.Good luck.
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Registered: 03-25-2004
Mon, 04-26-2004 - 4:14am
LOL at the picky pricks comment.. seriously.
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Registered: 05-11-2003
Mon, 04-26-2004 - 3:48pm
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Hmmm, based on your attitude in this post, I am not the least bit surprised that no single girl has liked you.

<,picky pricks >>

Hmmm, misplaced aggression? Or just a stinkin' bad attitude?




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Registered: 04-11-2004
Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:04am
I have always been browsing online for potential boyfriends (probably since I began using the internet like 8 years ago). I have befriended and met many men online. However, it wasn't until January when I signed up for Yahoo! Personals. I paid 20 dollars to e-mail this one guy, but he ended up not e-mailing me back so I browsed around some more and a particular person caught my eye. I e-mailed him, he e-mailed me back, we talked on AIM, and we met very soon. Now, we have been dating for 3 months now (it's not about quantity, but quality ;) ) and I couldn't be happier with him. He's actually my first boyfriend too...

You need patience my friend.

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