how do I meet someone not online?
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how do I meet someone not online?
| Sun, 08-08-2004 - 9:25pm |
I've never been on a date that wasn't online personals, and I really don't like online personals anymore-I don't think this is the way to go. But I haven't met ONE single guy in about 4 or 5 years, since I was in college. I have taken classes and I was in an outdoors club, but I didn't meet anyone there or at work. I have never had a boyfriend and I am very scared I'm never going to I am really desperate for suggestions so anything anyone can think of I would appreciate. I live a normal life, I go to work and go to the gym 5 days a week and am basically very normal, but I have no ways to meet men.

I do wear rings, but not ones with stones or anything.
Haha I don't think the guys at the gym are intimidated- I'm in good shape but I don't look that great. There aren't many young, cool guys at my gym.
I don't know, it just seems so hard, and other people seem to have it so easy. I have this guy friend I've known since i was 14 who has never not had a serious girlfriend. He just goes from one three-year relationship to the next without ever having gone on a date or picking up strangers. How is that possible? This is just one example, it seems to happen to almost everyone I know! I couldn't even get anyone in college, the easiest place in the world to get someone!
Go to a sub shop/pizza shop at lunchtime - lots of men. You don't have to get food there; just go in there and buy a water or something.
I saw a lot of guys in Dunkin' Donuts getting coffee this morning - try going to a coffee shop/breakfast place some morning.
actually this is off topic but yesterday I was in Souper Salad and it was packed, and all the women were huddled around the salad bar and all the men were in line for sandwiches. That's so weird.
In regard to why all the men were in the sandwich line and all the women were around the salad bar....
It's the carbs.... men aren't as concerned about eating carb-laden bread as women are.
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I think it's in general- carbs, calories, fat...I wish I were a guy. I'd much rather a nice hot wrap than a stupid salad.
Edited 8/10/2004 2:37 pm ET ET by buggie10
I can't figure it out.... Are you shy? When men look at you do you turn away quickly? I only ask because I used to do that. I hear that men like to approach women who are comfortable in their own skin and smiling. Smile always because they may be looking at you when you don't know it. Do you know anyone that has friends or siblings that you might be interested in? Anyhow, I still think it's a good idea to remove the rings. I have a guy friend that I used to date but now friends only with because he didn't want a girlfriend and I wasn't going to play the friends with benefits game with him and I asked him your question this afternoon and he said that the bar area in restaurants is a good place... not bars alone, but the decent ones like the bar area in a Chilis, Smokey Bones, or restaurants with bar sections you might have locally. Guys are more likely to approach you there because they might have had a few (not drunks) and not be nervous about being turned down. Friend told me that many guys worry that a woman will turn them down so they don't approach unless they know for sure you won't tell them to hit the road. He said that when you see a guy you might be interested in, if he looks at you longer than it takes to scan a room that he may be interested... look back, smile and look away slowly before looking up again. I have to tell you that when he said that we laughed but even while laughing he said that although it sounds stupid it works. Anyhow, I wish you luck. Lucy
It's just a suggestion...but have you ever signed up for a trip FOR SINGLES ONLY?
You spend a week travelling somewhere by bus with other singles like yourself. The idea is to explore new territory and maybe make a new friend or two? Do some on-line searching or ask a few friends about the possibility?
Now this DOESN'T mean you're gonna meet up with Mr. Right? But then again...there's always the possibility that YOU MIGHT?
Just something to consider next time you have a week or two of vacation coming up?
Pianoguy