How do I tell friend how I feel?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-08-2004
How do I tell friend how I feel?
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Thu, 07-08-2004 - 11:55pm
Ladies, I need your help!!! How do I tell my good friend I have feelings for her? Sometimes I think she may feel something about me, then she goes and tells me about the last fun date she had with her new boyfriend and invites me to go out with them next time. I recently invited her to go on a trip this weekend with some other friends and she initially declined, then at the last minute she said she found a great deal on flights and she wanted to come. I was psyched....until she said her new guy was going to come too.

I'm crazy about this girl but I'm afraid if I tell her how I feel, I could lose a great friendship if she doesnt feel the same way. What do I do??
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-08-2004
Fri, 07-09-2004 - 12:13am
Honesty is the best policy, recently I have found myself on the other end of that situation. As it turns out I wish he had just told me. It just makes life so much easier. Now our friendship does have some tension. I hope we can move past it. However sometimes things just happen, and I believe always for a reason. Every person you meet in your life is a part of who you are and you will take it and the lessons you learn from it with you through the next open door. Good Luck and Well Wishes!
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Registered: 05-05-2003
Fri, 07-09-2004 - 10:49am
To be honest, I've seen this blow up in the guy's face. That said, I do have another friend who admitted liking this female friend- and they are still friends. Of course, he would still like to be more, but they are only friends.

Now to be fair, I'm sure this girl has an idea that you like her. But seeing as how she has a guy right now, it's NOT the best time to be confessing your love. (nor when she just breaks up with one).

You don't have to go all out and proclaim your undying love for her or anything. Just when the moment is right, you can tell her that you care for her deeply and HAVE WONDERED about a relationship with her at times. Be prepared though for her to stick to the "we're just friends". Just letting her know that you care and you're there for her opens the door- you don't want her to slam it shut by going overboard. Yes, there may be some awkwardness, but in time that could fade.

Just make sure you're not sitting on HER sidelines missing a great opportunity elsewhere.

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