How do I tell him?

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Registered: 08-10-2003
How do I tell him?
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Mon, 11-15-2004 - 9:10am
hey guys,

There is this guy who my friend introduced me to in April and we've been talking ever since. The problem is that he lives a good 5 hours away. We have been such good friends the past 7 months...we've only met 2 times in person but when we're together in person it seems to fit even better. Everything about "us" seems perfect! I've had several mutual friends and his roommate that he likes me but doesn't know how to go about making a move since we're so far apart from each other, it would be hard. I am completely head-over-heals for this guy. Lately he's been working a lot more so we havn't talked quite as much as we normally do, but he still sends me messages on my phone throughout the day letting me know that I'm on his mind and checking to see how I'm doing. He's really great...I couldn't ask for more...actually, I am. I really want us to be together, I don't care about the distance. He's the most amazing person I have ever met and if I lose him because I didn't take initiative or for any other reason my world would fall to pieces. How do I tell him how I feel for him? I really think this is something I have to do, and now. I just don't know how to do it...I think I might be in love with him. PLEASE GIVE ME ADVISE!!

Thank you in advance!

Crystal

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Mon, 11-15-2004 - 10:18am
Hi

You obviously like this guy and he likes you but love comes from really knowing and spending time with one another. That is not the case here. What you have is perhaps some potential and alot of hope.

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Registered: 11-10-2004
Tue, 11-16-2004 - 4:01am
Hello Crystal/soapboxbunnie,

Bellina Fair here, can totally relate to your story with your potential beau. I believe

there's alot of positive aspects here despite the long distance between you. One being

when you did get together there was mutual attractions to one another and a comfort

level. This is so vital in a love potential relationship.Agree strongly with Sherri

in that I would ask if he would plan a trip during the holidays. If so fabulous for

getting to know each others true personalities away from your friends. It is quite

refreshing getting paired up by one's friends who care for our best interests.

In a passed relationship,I too was introduced by my best friend to Pete,at the time I

thought was sincere,affable,charming and quite good-looking.Dated him for several months

before we got intimate and felt a true love for one another.We're so happy,however

my story ends sad as he had to move back to N.J. due to illness of his dad.P.S. this

was alright at first,I'd commute by train(2 hrs)weekends to be with him,but,it got

harder due to job duties(mine) and his.Too much stress,not enough energy or time to

be intimate,he lost that lovin feelin,as the song goes. I was heartbroken as he

still chose to reside in N>J. after his poor dad passed. Couldn't take the commute

and passions ran cool.I can only hope the best for you and your future amour that

the distance will not stop love from blossoming.Best wishes your British pal Bellina Fair.

Please do call him,I believe your fellow is worth pursuing,he sounds genuine and a

great catch! Cheers!