How do I tell him?
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How do I tell him?
| Thu, 05-20-2004 - 4:32pm |
I've known him for some time now. When we first met we were both in a relationship. He was not honest about his but I was honest about mine. My relationship failed and our friendship continued. Finally, we ended up becoming intimate. We continued our friendship/affair for some time, out of the blue he stopped contacting me. He disappeared. Several months later he sent me an email telling me that he wanted to be friends again. I let him in. I was still out of a relationship. While our friendship flourished I went back with my ex. Moving forward my ex and I broke up again. At that moment we started a relationship and became even closer than before. Now, several months later I am aware that he is not the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. He is a wonderful person but decided to take an initiative on his life at late age. I am ready now. He has more kids than anyone can handle and they are all with different women. That alone scares me because of the finances and the emotional commitment you have to make to so many children. Our sex life is wonderful, when he touches I see stars but I cannot base a long term relationship on solely physical. His drive is very low and he can't seem to get his life together. He has no job and lives with family. The only thing that he is doing at the moment is school. That is a good thing but who takes care of his children while he's taking care of himself. I want more than that. I am an ambitious person, I love to travel, I love to go out. For the past several months we have been unable to go anywhere unless I am paying. I have to say that I love him, he is my best friend but I don't want to hurt him. So I stay, but I want more, how do I tell him he is not the one for me wihtout messing up our friendship or do I just disappear on him like he did to me.
Confused

OR you can just disappear on him like he did you, because afterall, since he did it too, he send out the message that it's perfectly acceptable to do right back. Don't worry about "ethics" with someone who just proved he could care less about it himself.
This is a no brainer.