how do i win back the guy i love?

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Registered: 05-09-2006
how do i win back the guy i love?
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Tue, 06-20-2006 - 11:36pm

So last year I met this really amazing guy Tyler at a party. he was a year younger than I, but we clicked instantly and shared so many laughs. over time, we became really good friends. a close friend of mine told me that he liked me alot, but at the time i was in a relationship with someone. in the back of my mind i had feelings for Tyler too, but they werent strong enough to make me change my mind about my boyfriend at the time. Eventually, my boyfriend and I broke up. I was looking foward to getting closer to Tyler, but my hopes soon died when a rumor was spread about me that hurt our relationship for a while. I wont get into the rumor, but it wasnt true. It took me a month or so to get it though to him that it was infact a lie, but by that time he had a new, serious girlfriend. The two of them were real close, and as much as I was tempted to, I didn't try to sabotoge their relationship. They dated for about a year, and broke up a few months ago. Now, here is my delema. I've been talking to Tyler again, and all of my feelings that I had for him last summer are coming back. I've always wanted a summer romance that would sweep me off my feet, and there isnt anyone who I'd rather share that with than him. I miss what we had, and I want to know how to get it back. I dont want to come across as desperate, but how do I try to make plans with him out of the blue? I dont know if I should come right out and tell him that I like him. I know that it will either work out really well, and he'll tell me that he secretly had feelings for me too (thats a stretch), or it will get really akward between us, and ruin the chance of even being friends.

help!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-21-2006 - 8:48am

saigeyyy026...

Quick question from Pianoguy:

What's wrong with "focusing on the friendship" RIGHT NOW? If something more serious is meant to happen...IT WILL! Otherwise---you still have the friendship, correct?

The biggest mistake women (and a few men) make is trying to "rush the process" of getting to know someone else too quickly. While you might have a desire for a "summer romance", wouldn't you rather let this relationship develop that might extend into Fall, Winter and Spring?

Cool your jets...establish a good friendship...and then, let 'nature' take its course!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 05-25-2006
Wed, 06-21-2006 - 8:57am
The longest relationships that I've been in start off as friendships. Take pianoguy's advice.