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| Mon, 11-14-2005 - 4:28pm |
if a coworker already has a girlfriend?
I just started talking to a guy at work who I'd be interested in pursuing. None of conversations have been personal, where I can find out about his "status". Since we work in the same building I don't want to make things awkward by making a move when he may already be taken.
So now I'm brainstorming for ideas. A friend who works with him says she'll just ask...but my fear is that he knows we're friends and may put two and two together.
Any creative ideas?

animatedgoddess...
Simple suggestion from Pianoguy....
The next time the two of you are having a casual conversation together in which he says something that most women would find incredibly flattering...repeat the following:
"Gosh, your girlfriend is lucky to have such an enlightened man like you around!"
Then say nothing and wait for a reaction.
You'll either get a comment ("Well...she is"....or "I'm not with anybody right now") OR at the very least....there will be a BLUSH on his face! One of those should give you a clue about whether he's available or not?
Pianoguy
That's one of my favorite approaches :)
The last time I used it the guy totally ignored I had made the comment and continued talking. I eventually figured out he had a FWB for about four years. Guess he thought that by not acknowledging she existed I wouldn't put 2 and 2 together. Now who would want someone that dense? :)
I'll try to fit it in to a conversation without appearing to be fishing for information. It's the whole "workplace" thing that makes it difficult.
Thanks!
I know what you mean. Most of our conversations have not geared themselves to anything personal. The couple of times he did talk about after work activities he didn't mention a significant other.
I'll figure out a way to drop the "I'm single" bit...see if he bites :)
Thanks!