How do you sit down and talk to a guy...
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How do you sit down and talk to a guy...
| Mon, 08-02-2004 - 8:37am |
How do you sit down and talk to a guy about dating and feelings without him getting scared? My guy friend and I have been hanging out a lot lately and there has been a lot of playful flirting and touching between us. He has showed me a lot of mixed reactions about the way he feels about me. I know that I have developed feelings for him and would like to pursue them but I am so hesitant in sitting down with him and being like, " what are we?" Not because I am afraid that he will not feel the same cause if he didn't have feelings for me I would just continue being his friend, but I don't want to scare him in the process of asking in the first place. How do most men (not that they ever want to talk about things like this) want to talk about something like this? Or how has anyone else discussed something like this? Suggestions will help me a tremendous amount.

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The only answer I can provide is to tell you to take the risk. Use your head and choose your words wisely so you don't seem overbearing. Life's too short to let love slip by!!!
You're not scaring him away by being upfront. He hasn't been pursuing you. Maybe what you're going to find out is that he likes being friends with perks, but isn't interested in a relationship right now. Maybe he's shy. Find out. If you're comfortable touching him, then there is something very odd about not being able to talk to him about your needs.
Wow, I just woke up. My answer has been in front of my face the whole time and I have just been having such a hard time opening my eyes. Sometimes I worry about myself. :)
Now, if only I can get the words out of my mouth.....
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