How early is it to discuss "our future"?
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How early is it to discuss "our future"?
| Tue, 03-16-2004 - 5:01pm |
This is the question for the women here. When do you expect to talk with the guy you're dating about your future together? I don't you can't always be specific about these things, but can anyone give me an approximation or something?
Here's the thing. Whenever I date anyone, usually from the very beginning we discuss future goals and so fourth. I tell her the things I want to accomplish in my life, and I listen to what she wants from hers. That's all fine and dandy because those are our individual goals....but I've been reading a lot of posts through the boards here where people say they've dated for like 2 months and already discussed their long term future together.
Am I strange for thinking 2 months is too soon for future talks? Keep in mind I'm only 24, so obviously my age plays a part, but I like to think of myself as cautious. What do you guys think?

Good luck!
My opinion is that its the age. At 24, I didn't like discussing long term r/ships - period. Now that I am 32, guys tell me on the first couple of dates what they are looking for. They don't want to waste their time - they want a wife and they are clear about that. Of course, that doesn't mean they want ME...only that is the intention of dating for them. I actually find it refreshing and more enjoyable now.
Go.