HOW FAR IS TO FAR?

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Registered: 08-03-2004
HOW FAR IS TO FAR?
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Sun, 08-08-2004 - 5:16pm
The chemistry between my boyfriend and me is really strong, but I don't want to have sex yet because we just started going out.

I've only had sex one time and that was when I got really drunk at this party. I've been in other realtionships but never had this much chemistry or got as carried away as I do with him.

I want to do stuff with him but I don't know what to do how to do it and how far I should go without him thinking I'm a tease because I won't go all the way.

I would really appreciate any input on this situation. I am to embarassed to talk about it with even my best friend.
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Registered: 08-08-2004
Sun, 08-08-2004 - 6:41pm
If you're not sure....don't do it. If it's right....you'll know it. If this guy and you have such great chemistry, there's no way he'll put any pressure on you or think you're a tease. If he does, you don't need a guy like that, that has no respect for you or your feelings. Look, there should never be a rush to get sexual w/ anyone. If there is, they have the wrong intention in the first place. Just do what you feel comfortable with!! And Stick to your guns!!!
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Registered: 08-06-2004
Sun, 08-08-2004 - 6:56pm
If he's really in love with you, then sex isn't important at all. It took me 40 years to realize that but it's true. I'm in love with a woman and all we have done is kiss so far and that's perfectly fine with me.

Remember, there's a difference between making love and having sex and I've done both many times. One time making love is worth 1,000 times of having sex. You'll know what I mean when you are truly in love and make love to your partner.

Don't let him or outside pressure force you to do anything you don't want to do. And remember, that he will start to say and do things to get you in the sack, it's perfectly natural for guys to do that. Just trust YOUR feelings and only do what YOU want to do. If he leaves, he didn't care or love you in the first place.

Tom

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Registered: 08-03-2004
Sun, 08-08-2004 - 7:09pm
He really is a great guy and he hasn't pressured me to do anything, I just don't want that to change to fast, and your advice has helped a lot.

Thanks

Lee
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Registered: 05-05-2003
Mon, 08-09-2004 - 11:30am
You need to make sure that you are up front about not having sex. Making sure that he knows you are not ready yet will help you feel better and he knows your limit. There are other things you two can do when fooling around, without having sex. You know your self and your body best, so if you're not ready, don't do it.

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Registered: 05-26-2004
Mon, 08-09-2004 - 12:17pm
As everyone has said, communication is the key.
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Registered: 12-23-2003
Mon, 08-09-2004 - 12:43pm

I wonder about the fact that you consider yourself his "girlfriend" even though you just started going out.

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