How far should you go to get him back???

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Registered: 02-19-2004
How far should you go to get him back???
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Sun, 04-18-2004 - 6:43pm
So, How far should we go before we stop ourshelves and say, okay, I think I'm psycho.

I was doing so well, until he contacted to say that he misses me. I know I deserved better than what he has done.

Anyway to the point, I probably know the answer already but, is it wrong to contact his other grilfriend to find out if they are still together? He cheated on us, and I found out by calling her number that was on his cell phone. They live in the same town, so I was in the long distance relationship with him for a year.

Now he's calling and telling me that he misses me and regrets what happened, he is my weakness, I felt like giving him another chance because I don't want to be asking myself the "what if I didn't try hard enough?", however, I did tell him not to contact me again. Should I call the other girl to find out if they're still together? Would that be

fair to her? I should know that he's not worth it and if he did love me, he shouldn't

have to put me through this. Do I really need to do this if I must find closure? or will it just hurt me more?

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Registered: 04-18-2004
Sun, 04-18-2004 - 6:50pm
If he cheated on you once, who's to say he won't do it again? It would be easier for him to do it since you live in another town. I'd give up on him and move on to someone else. I've fallen for the same thing. He told me he missed me when he thought he couldn't have me, but when I tried to give myself to him, he didn't want to commit. Ultimatly, you have to do what your heart tells you.