how to get over forbidden fruit?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-15-2004
how to get over forbidden fruit?
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Mon, 10-18-2004 - 9:05pm
help! i have developed a VERY strong attraction for my very married boss! i think the attraction is mutual, which doesn't make things any easier, but i absolutely cannot get involved with this man. any suggestions on how to get over this and move on?
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-27-2004
Mon, 10-18-2004 - 10:07pm
I can't tell you how to get over him but I would like to offer my 2 cents on what's in store if you don't. I have been involved with a married man and trust me you do NOT want to go there. These things sneak up on us even when we don't want them to. I didn't want to fall in love with this man, but I did and it almost ruined my life. Just think about it this way ... do you really want a man that could cheat on his wife? Odds are those that cheat once will do it again and the next time it will be on you. Good luck hope you are strong enough to stay away from this.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2003
Mon, 10-18-2004 - 10:09pm
Yes whenever you are tempted to do something you shouldn't remind yourself of the harm that can come from sleeping with him (harm to an innocent woman, perhaps your career).
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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-15-2004
Mon, 10-18-2004 - 11:50pm
good suggestion about keeping a list! and thanks for the encouragement - it helps to know that i'm not the only one who's been in this situation. man is it hard!!!! why why why why can't he be single? or why can't i find someone just as compelling who's single and not my boss??? especially since it is really hard to meet nice single men - even when i'm around men all the time (i work almost exclusively with men, all married, and i study a martial art - also with all men - all MARRIED!) i'm doing the online thing, and that's OK, but i've not yet met anyone who didn't turn out to be a creep several dates later....if it even gets that far.

it's a numbers game.... patience is a virtue.... when the timing is right.... when you least expect it..... argh!