how to get over my past
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how to get over my past
| Tue, 08-07-2007 - 10:39am |
I been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and we have a 10 month old boy together. When we first met he used to be really mean to me and has done things to hurt me pretty bad. And my parents are divorced. My dad had an affair with my moms friend. When i was 2 months pregnant, he took a trip to kentucky and lied to me about the whole thing...and out of this kentucky trip he took a friend of his down there which i had no idea about. Him and this girl remained friends. I had a sonogram appt and he chose to see this girl in the hospital instead bc she had a car accident. My son was born sept 26. and a couple days b4 he was going to take her to NY for her bday...he made me call her and explain that i was going to have our baby soon and he couldnt go. Then after our son was born, him and her would go out to the bar 2gether and leave me and our son behind. I decided to give her a chance and try to be friends with her but that ended when i found out they were dancing 2gether and she was dressing inappropriate. Me and him has had many fights about her..to the point i wanted to leave him. It just seems like shes way to important to him and i get jealous because of it. I do have trust issuses with him that i need to resolve. When i was able to trust him and i let him go out he spent the night at 2 girls house and that ruined my trust again. Im just tired of us fighting! so i decided to give this girl another chance...because she told me hes rebelling against me because im supposivly controlling him and telling him what do to (i told him i didnt want him hanging out with her anymore and wanted her out of his life). Him and her claim that there strictly JUST FRIENDS and nothing will ever happen with them. And they both agreed that there only going to hang out if im around which is why i agreed to letting them hang out again. I get afraid sometimes that this girl is gonna be his mistress like my moms friend was. How can i learn to trust him again and get over my past. I been hurt so much i feel like i have to take constant percaution. I know its hurting our relationship, i need to know how to fix it! How can i know for sure him and this girl are just friends and that he wont cheat on me bc thats what im afraid of. He has told me us fighting all the time is pushing him away. I need to know what to do. Give me some advice...Please help me save my relationship.

He lied to you early on in the relationship.
What changes has he made to prove to you that he's no longer a liar when it suits him to be?
I think the real question you may need to ask yourself is what do I need in order to be happy and to best take care of my son? If this guy can not meet those needs, maybe the relationship is not meant to be saved. This may be a learning experience for you to figure out what is really going to make you happy.
Good luck,
YG
YG
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