How To Get a Shy Guy to Open Up....?
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| Thu, 07-29-2004 - 2:43am |
He's a really nice guy, and all of my co-workers think the world of him. He's very cute, polite, well-mannered, and not a "player", which is a rare find in the single population of 20-somethings.
I've had the chance to talk to him several times, but only once at a great length. Most of the time it's a simple, 'hi', 'bye', or 'how's it going?' and it never seems to really progress more than that. I have a feeling that he could be interested in me, as I'm one of the only people he makes a point to talk to at work. He's flirty and teases me a lot. He's also invited me along on some outings with him and his friends in the past, which I had to decline due to schedule conflicts.
The big problem is his shyness. Or shyness in general, as I'm not exactly an extrovert either, and I have SUCH a hard time starting a conversation with him. He's so cute that my brain turns into mush around him and I suddenly can't think of ANYTHING to say!
I'm terrified that we'll go out and it'll be full of awkward silences. I'm used to dating guys that are MUCH MUCH MUCH more assertive (and aggressive and extroverted) than this, so I've never had this problem before. Can anyone give me any tips on how to open this shy guy up without scaring him? What are some good conversation starters, or topics for conversations? And what are some good "first date" ideas (if we ever get to that point, sheesh!) that will keep him talking and relaxed? Where are some good places to even go on a first date? I notice that he seems to get intimidated and clam up when there's a lot of commotion at work. He's a lot more relaxed (and talkative) when things are slow at work and not a lot of people are around. I think we're simply too much alike, and I want to stop being so introverted/reserved, take a risk, and get this guy's attention.
Any advice on this would be much appreciated! :)
Edited 7/29/2004 2:46 am ET ET by sillygirlie12

The only thing I know to do is just be yourself. Continue talking and smiling with him and maybe he'll warm up enough and feel more comfortable around you.
Try talking about some activities that you like or movies and how your weekend went. Somthing to get you started. Be friendly, smile, smile, smile. Hopefully, he'll come around.
I think I mainly need to just get over my fear of "rejection/awkwardness". I fear that we'll go out and it'll be full of those super long, awkward silences...
Yikes.
He's not dull or boring- he simply isn't as assertive as the guys I'm used to. Anybody else have any tips on how to get him to open up, or how to conquer my *own* introvertedness? Or any ideas on where to go on a "first date" for two shy people? Thanks! :)