How to know when a guy is interested?

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Registered: 11-26-2003
How to know when a guy is interested?
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Sat, 06-12-2004 - 7:17am
Officially, we are not dating. We're just friends. Neither one of us made the first move yet. But we talk over the phone at least 3 times daily, we go out along to dinners and movies at least twice a week. Im willing to make the first move if I feel he is interested. So what are the signs that give away that the guy is interestes in pursuing a relationship more than friendship? Body language? The way he talks? The subjects he opens up? Any giveaways?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 06-12-2004 - 2:23pm
dreammate...

If the 2 of you are already going out to dinner and the movies...and talking on the phone 3 times a day...it's pretty safe to say THIS MAN IS INTERESTED IN YOU!

How quickly YOU want to accelerate the friendship into a relationship is really the issue here! Just remember that once you cross the line from friendship to something serious, you won't be able to go backwards!

Pianoguy suggests that during one of your 'friendship dinners'---you could casually ask your companion if he thinks you both are developing more than "just a friendship" for each other? And if you phrase your question EXACTLY this way without being pushy, he'll have to agree or disagree. Keep in mind that if this man ISN'T comfortable with exclusivity or a commitment, he'll let you know by his body language...along with the lack of verbiage!

Just be prepared for a positive or a negative response...and then you can act accordingly. Best of luck!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 11-26-2003
Sun, 06-13-2004 - 1:34pm
What if I do ask him if we are more than just friends and for any reasons he doesnt answer a way out of answering me? Would I have destroyed our friendship then?
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Registered: 06-13-2004
Sun, 06-13-2004 - 10:46pm
I agree with the other post--obviously he's interested. You are the woman--you are the one with the power--if you want this guy--pull out the moves and you'll have him. Just make sure that is what you really want and you know enough about him.