How Long Is a Casual Relationship?
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| Sun, 10-30-2005 - 8:03pm |
I have known this guy for 5 months. He is younger than me, never been married, no kids. We have seen each other casually, about every 3-4 weeks, and yes, we have done the "deed"--more than one time. I have realized that I may be in love with this guy. I have told him that I have strong feelings for him and would like to pursue a committed relationship with him. He says that he thinks he has feelings for me. The problem is that he has some immediate family problems he is having to deal with right now. Because of that, he says he cannot commit right now. He says that his life is so wide open and uncertain, that he can't commit to a relationship and he can't be as free with his feelings. He has also said he doesn't want me to have hope right now because I will end up getting hurt, and he doesn't want me to get hurt.
I'm just curious as to how long this may go. Do I just tell him that I need to move on and hopefully at some point in time, we can get back together and have a committed relationship? Will he ever commit? I am just so confused about all this, and I am looking for some answers.

He's telling you he cannot commit, what more is there to wonder?
You told him what you want, he is telling you no. Rather than hanging on, I would suggest you let him know if at some point in the future he wants a committed relationship to look you up, then break away from him. Try to not let yourself get involved in something that has no future because it's just going to be a waste of your time.
Hope this helps.